My Story... My reality
My passion for, and my commitment to, Personal & Professional Growth Development and Business Coaching, both come as a result of my past experiences, accomplishments, and the hard lessons lived & learned from my personal inabilities at the time, resulting in tragedy...
This story is not written from my memory of my past, since I have none of these events; this is what my family members viewed, experienced and documented during my forced sabbatical.
Drive or Destruction...
In the fall of 1994, at the age of 31, I was working hard, focused, and on top of my game, or at least I thought I was. At the time, I owned 3 successful businesses in the provinces of Alberta, Saskatchewan and Manitoba, living a comfortable life and building a solid future for myself and my family.
What I neglected to realize was that for all of my successes and accomplishments, there were just as many or more detriments that were attached due to the way I was living my life. I ignored the obvious and resisted CHANGE for the better.
To put this into perspective, I was working 6 - 7 days a week, 14 hours a day minimum, traveling up to 20 days per month, neglected TIME for myself, family and friends, stopped exercising, and the word NO wasn't part of my vocabulary.
"It will all sort it self out, and as soon as I get this project completed, everything will be great, I can enjoy the fruits of my labor, and get back to the life I had, but for now I have to stay focused and go hard, change is just around the corner." And so it was...
Arriving home from one of my business trips, exhausted and stressed my sleep that evening was accompanied by a series of small strokes which changed my life, as well as for the people around me, forever.
When I awoke, I had no idea who I was...
After waking in the morning I was different. I was scared, frightened, and my long term memory did not exist anymore, and my short term memory did not last. My family, friends and loved ones that I once knew, I no longer did; they were strangers, people I had never met before. I was alone in my own world.
I now entered the world of Retrograde Transient Global Amnesia (TGA), a type of amnesia involving the sudden disturbance in an otherwise healthy person's memory. This was triggered from constant stress, exhaustion and my life's complete imbalance. Like a massive on/off switch, my life was now shut off, which lasted for almost 8 weeks, a rare case, but very real.
I couldn't run my businesses, since I didn't know that I had any, or what business was for that matter. Any engagement with people and loved ones was non-existent since I didn't know who they were, my past love for playing golf became a game I wanted to try, I didn't know my address, couldn't sign my name, and pretty much everything I encountered was a new experience.
My life, and my family's for the next 8 weeks was a frightening adventure, and emotionally frustrating. For them, trying to re teach me, and living with an individual who did not know them; and for me, the frustrating quest for my past identity.
A new awakening and a hard lesson learned...
After awakening from my state of 8 weeks my memory started to reappear, but it was an incredible struggle. Constant re learning & rehabilitation took place over the years that followed.
Today, no one would know of my memory loss unless I told them, but from about 14 - 15 years of age to birth my memory has vanished, I have lost hearing in my left ear, and experience some paralysis in my left arm. These are my constant reminders of the importance of Work/Life Balance.
I've stood in your shoes...
I share this story with people and groups I coach, not as a success story of what you can over come and achieve in life, but to draw attention to one of the many things that can happen, and is happening when you go through life not taking care of, or being attentive to your Work/Life Balance.
Ignoring the obvious, procrastinating on the issues and events that need attention, constantly resisting positive change, and not allowing yourself the right to discover, flourish, grow, and enjoy, is a recipe for disaster in some form or another.
Glenn A. Chomiak
"When you hear something you forget it
When you see something you remember it
But not until you do something, will you begin to understand it"
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